What I Hate About My Job

You’d think guiding people to wave fears goodbye and permanently clear unhealthy subconscious beliefs would be a dream job, right?

What I hate about the work I do is that it promotes a belief that there’s something wrong with you. That you’re broken and in need of fixing (even worse, that I can fix you).

The unequivocal truth is that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you. You’re perfect exactly as you are - with your pain, your flawed personality, your addictions, weaknesses, problems.

All of that is part of the beauty of being alive. Creating a rainbow from your diverse human experience.

Does it hurt? Absolutely.

Does life suck balls sometimes. Yurp.


Do we naturally try to move away from pain? Indeed.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s beautiful that, as humans, we desire to evolve and improve ourselves.

But improving yourself while believing there’s something wrong with you is dancing through a field of landmines.

We live in a society which profits greatly from our belief that we’re fundamentally flawed. It keeps us buying products to fix our supposed flaws. Combine that with strong religious messages that we’re in need of redemption. Sprinkle with a competitive education system which tells us only the winner out of a class of 30+ kids is ‘good enough’. Pepper with the toxicity of scrolling everyone else’s seemingly perfect lives on social media….

You’ve got yourself a perfect recipe for deep subconscious beliefs that there’s something wrong with you.

And it’s simply not true.

Let me repeat myself (because you really can’t hear this enough): You’re perfect exactly as you are. Every part of you is worthy of love and kindness.

In my opinion there’s just two things missing in our lives. Two things needed to feel whole and happy.

1. Radical Self-Acceptance.

Total acceptance of who we are, what’s happened in our past. Accepting it as part of the wild ride of being alive.

2. Kindness and Compassion For Ourselves

Once we’ve locked in self-acceptance, we can really get in there and pour loving-kindness into each forgotten shadowy crevice of our being.

A very pleasant and common side-effect of this is a massive life transformation. Feeling like you’ve had a brain transplant and are living in a different, more friendly and easier reality.

Here’s a pro-tip from someone who’s been actively on the path of self-improvement for almost 20 years now - do your best to avoid getting addicted to such transformations. They’re great when they happen, but the real gold is the practice of self-acceptance and love.

Integrating these practices into your daily reality is actually what’s going to have a long term impact on the quality of your life!